Please Note: The views expressed in this blog are my personal views and understanding. These views do not represent Islam. Since, I am a Muslim, all the views expressed are seen through the lens of Islam as I see it. It may or may not coincide with Islamic teachings due to my personal shortcomings. This is a Muslim's blog, not a website teaching Islam. Everything good that is written is from Allah, every mistake below is from my own self.  TaqabbAllahu Minni wa minkum wa astaghfiruAllah, All comments are welcome.

Tuesday, November 27, 2007

Malaysia and USA in Free Trade ? Don't be the latest Victim

Recently I read in the news about Malaysia and USA about to make an agreement about Free Trade, and people who are unaware of the implications of this agreement, they think that Malaysia is going to prosper by trading with USA.

To be brief, I just want people to open their eyes to the reality of this ' Free Trade ' USA is spreading across the globe and what it brings to a nation.
Today, America's economy is dwindling much faster than in the past century. It has been into war with someone or the other since the end of WW II. The 'Project for new American Century' talks about how America should control the world economy and world markets as well as natural resources, mainly oil to be able to retain its super power status as well as 'rule the world', in their report which was released much before 9\11 ever happened, they mentioned about needing another 'pearl harbor' like event so that they can go ahead with their plans, and 9\11 happened right at the time they needed it ! and they got the green signal to go ahead with their invasions keeping the UN and Human Rights at bay, without much resistance from the general public who is still unaware what is actually going on ! They invaded Afghanistan for one man- Bin Ladin and did not get him nor any 'senior' leaders of 'Al Qaeda' (I doubt if this Al Qaeda even exists or is the biggest story we have been told !), they invaded Iraq for the alleged 'Weapons of Mass destruction' which were never found although people don't care because their attention was diverted to other 'spicy' stuff like Saddam and Civil war in Iraq, the people are like a toddler, u shake a toy on the right and he is distracted by that toy, u shake it on his left side and all he sees is that toy on the left with no idea what is on his right !

To be precise, America is under a big debt since a long time and the way of reducing this debt is to pass it on to other nations, and a very deceptive way of doing it, is by Free Trade agreements. In a Free Trade agreement, Malaysia's currency will no longer depend upon its economy or amount of hard work Malaysians do for their nation, rather its going to depend upon the American Dollar, if the dollar goes up the RM goes up, if the dollar comes down RM comes down. After the Free Trade, America will be able to manipulate almost everything in Malaysia, like it has been doing for Egypt and many other 'Islamic' countries. Right from elections, governments, policies, laws to the Friday Sermons given in Masjids will be dictated by America.
If Malaysian really want to prosper they should open their eyes to this big dirty trap ahead of them, this is just a dangling carrot and it is going to lead Malaysia into an utter abyss of immoral life and corrupt society. If Malaysians do not wake up to this reality and oppose Free Trade with USA, it maybe too late in the future until their nation becomes another Zombie walking behind USA in a trance. And we all know where they are heading to, and May Allah save us from following them.

Wake up Malaysians, say NO to Free Trade with the Kafir leader - USA

PS: I suggest you to read about Free Trade with USA, how the currency works in Free Trade, How Free Trade affected Egypt, and how free trade is not really best for Malaysia.

Watch this > http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dUG8bhAXn2s Watch its first part onwards if you got more time.

Saturday, November 24, 2007

Oh, God forgive me when I whine

Salam alaikum

I want to share something nice I came across, by my favorite Nasheed singer ' Ahmed Bukhatir ' This song sung by this singer reminds you of times when you wished to have more wealth , maybe rich parents, bigger house, a better car, a great paying job, or more beautiful skin, more prettier face, more status or what ever you complained about your blessings, this song tells you something ... here are the lyrics and the video


God forgive me when I whine
By Og Mandino (adapted from original by Red Foley)

Today upon a bus I saw a lovely girl with golden hair. I envied
her - she seemed so gay - and wished I were as fair. But suddenly
she rose to leave. I saw her hobble down the isle, she had only one
leg and wore a crutch, but as she passed, a smile…

Oh, God forgive me when I whine,

I have two legs, the world is mine.

I stopped to buy some candy. The lad who sold them had such charm. I
stopped to talk to him, he seemed so glad - if I was late could do
no harm. As I left he said to me, “I thank-you, you had been so
kind. It’s nice to talk to folks like you, you see,” he said, “I am
blind.”

Oh, God forgive me when I whine,

I have two eyes, the world is mine.

Later while walking down the street, I saw a child with eyes of
blue. He stood and watched the others play, he did not know what to
do. I stopped a moment and said, “Why don’t you join the others,
dear?” He looked ahead without a word and then I knew, he couldn’t
hear.

Oh, God forgive me when I whine,

I have two ears, the world is mine.

With feet to take me where I go, with eyes to see the sun-set glow,
with ears to hear what I would know.

Oh, God forgive me when I whine,

I am blessed indeed, the world is mine!

Thursday, November 22, 2007

My Favorite Movie ! Le Grand Voyage

Salam Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah

In our lives, we hold some things very dearly. Some songs, some books, some poems, some people, some places and many other things, and in my life this simple movie is very dear to me.I was suggested this movie by a very good person. Maybe that person never realized that this movie is gonna become one of my MOST favorite movies of all time.

I have been searching for this movie since a long time, with English subtitles and I waited eagerly to watch it, and today I finally watched the whole movie and words cant explain how I felt watching this movie, its simple and about a simple event in someone's life and I suggest everyone to watch this movie once, and watch it with English subtitles, because this movie is French and Arabic, although the dialogs are very less, but watch out for the emotions the unsaid words, the unsaid lessons and the power of wisdom and faith...... I am pasting a review of the movie below and also a trailer of the movie, and providing a link to the full movie on Google video, but I am sorry it does not have English subtitles. So, if you are planning to watch this, rent a DVD and enjoy it !

Le Grand Voyage (2004)
"Reda, summoned to accompany his father on a pilgrimage to Mecca and he is asked to drive his dad from France to Mecca, complies reluctantly - as he preparing for his baccalaureate examination and, even more important, has a secret love relationship. The trip across Europe in a broken-down car is also the departure of his father: upon arrival in Mecca, both Reda and his father are not the characters they were at the start of the movie. Avoiding the hackneyed theme of the return to the homeland, the film uses the departure to renew a connection between two generations.


Trailer



Link to full movie on Google videos (without English subtitles)
http://video.google.com/googleplayer.swf?docId=5647474908571696476&hl=en

Saturday, October 13, 2007

GoodBye Ramadhan :(

A month of blessings and mercy of Allah is leaving us, as we bid it goodbye with tears in our eyes. The prayers, the fasting, the charity and good deeds had become so common around us, it seemed like the world has changed. People were more courteous to each other, inviting each other towards good and discouraging people from doing the bad.

The Masjid was full of worshipers at every solah, all standing together and bowing down to the Greatest Lord , with humility and devotion, with fear and hope, with prayers and thankfulness.

It had become easy to do good, had become easy to wake up early and stay awake late standing before Allah, with tears in our eyes seeking His mercy and forgiveness and such a blessed month is leaving us, will I be alive to witness another ramadhan ? or will this be my last ramadhan and no more ? did i make the most of this month ? some questions really arising in my mind as this month is fading away with the crescent moon of Shawwal shining bright in the night sky in the company of the innumerable twinkling stars and in this cold winter wind, I feel the warmth of Allah's mercy around me. I wish I had the taufeeq to make the most of this month, and wish I was successful in seeking Allah's mercy and blessings and wish my body is programmed enough to keep this emaan and spirit alive till the coming of next ramadhan so that I may increase further my emaan and learn to love Allah more and fear Him more and obey Him more, ameen.

But, since I was a kid I witnessed a phenomenon so sad yet real.As soon as the moon of shawwal is sighted the same Muslims who were icons of goodness, go back to their previous ways, with selfishness, deceit, arrogance, pride, extravagance and disobedience to Allah, the masjids become vacant again and soon the whole community forgets the goodness this month had taught us.

Lets make a pledge that we will stive hard to keep this spirit of ramadhan alive in our lives in all the coming months, because we are Muslims throughout the year and not only in ramadhan. What is good in ramadhan is also good and compulsary in other months for a Muslim, like solah, charity, honesty, humility and the spirit of sharing. May Allah help us realize this eternal truth and lead us on the path of those who receive His blessings and Mercy and save us from the path of those who deserve His wrath and punishment, ameen




I wish all the Muslims all around the world a very blessed Eid. Please do not forget our brothers and sisters who are facing oppression from the kafir oppressors even in this month, our brothers and sisters who are not fortunate enough to celebrate this wonderful occasion. Please remember our brothers and sisters in Iraq, Afghanistan, Kashmir, Palestine, Chechnya, Philippines, Kosovo, please make dua to Allah for them and their families and dua is the least thing we can do to help them, and after dua if you are in a position to help them, please do it in the name of Allah, May Allah reward you for all the goodness you bring to the world.

Monday, September 10, 2007

~~~ Ramadhan Mubarak ~~~



As Salam Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

To all my friends and all Muslimeen on earth




Friday, September 7, 2007

Welcoming the blessed month of Ramadhan

Assalam alaikum wa rahmatullah

Another year has passed away and here comes the blessed month of Ramadhan'ul Mubarak. The significance of ramadhan is unquestionable in the minds of every Muslim. A lot of Hadith mention about this blessed month, Quran mentions that it was revealed in the month of Ramadhan.

For every Muslim this is a month of piety and devotion to Allah and His deen. Even people who never cared to pray or fast, come back to Allah in this blessed month and every Masjid is full of people in the daily prayers and especially during Maghrib. But, why does the effect of ramdhan slowly fade away from our hearts ? Why do the Masjids start getting empty as soon as the moon of shawwal is sighted ? Once we are done with Eid ul Fitr, we tend to forget that the 5 prayers are compulsory in every month and not only in Ramadhan. Maybe its because shaitaan takes extra effort to take us away from our deen once ramadhan is finished, because our emaan tends to grow and reaches extreme heights in this blessed month.

Nevertheless, we should strive to keep the spirit of Ramadhan alive for as much time as possible, and the best is to keep it alive till the arrival of next ramadhan so that our emaan reaches new heights with the arrival of another ramadhan in our lives.


Lets promise to bring about a positive change in our lives, starting with this Ramadhan. Young or old, it is never too late to bring positive changes in our mind and souls. And to bring such a change we have to consciously follow some basic steps...

1) Beginning with making a very strong and truthful intention that we want a positive change in our lives, closeness to Allah and His deen and to become beloved in His sight.

2) We have to bring about changes in our surroundings, our habits and our activities. Keep away from people who tend to attract you towards anything which displeases Allah. Stop every habit which may displease Allah for seeking the pleasure of Allah alone and not for other reasons.

3) Seek the company of pious people, they may seem boring but they hold a lot of wisdom in their minds. Try to get closer to them and see life from their perspective for sometime and see how well Islamic principles apply to your life. Sitting in their company itself is a method of changing our lives. Just like sitting in a blacksmith's workshop can get your clothes dirty and sitting in a perfume shop can leave traces of perfume on your clothes, same way the company you keep, can effect the thoughts in your mind.

4) Plan a routine of good deeds in the blessed month. Instead of doing things randomly bring about an order in your life. Everything is in order in the world of Allah, the planets, stars, comets , atoms, electrons and life. Order is seen in every aspect of Islam, in prayers, dua, fasting and Hajj. Brining an orderly planned schedule for deeds, helps us evaluate ourselves and develop more upon our taqwa and emaan. Plan your timetable keeping in mind each solah, and devote an assigned amount of time for Dhikr (remembrance) of Allah, reading of a part of the Quran each day on assigned time, Plan out your charity in advance, each day, each week or once a month, plan out any volunteering you would like to do for your local masjid, or school or hospital and do it with discipline and sincerity.

5) Radiate this qualities to the world. Don't just bring about a positive change in your own life but also try to extend this positive change to the society and world around you. Encourage people to do good deeds and try to stop people from doing bad. Share the things you have with the people who are not as blessed as you. Invite people for Iftar and do not ignore the needy and the poor who deserve your charity too.

6) Once the end of ramadhan approaches, make a conscious decision to keep this spirit alive and strive to make your body and soul adapt to the deen of Allah and not to the secular world order. Stick to your Quranic teachings and work hard to gain the pleasure of Allah, even if you are made a joke or called by silly names, choose between Allah's pleasure or pleasure of His creation.

7) Make lots of D'ua daily for our fellow brothers and sisters in various parts of the world, suffering and facing extreme oppresion in the lands of Palestine, Bosnia, Iraq, Afghanistan, Kosovo, Kashmir and many many more. If possible try to plan out sending some charity to them in the form of money or materials, the least is a sincere Dua for them each day, everyday.
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I hope Allah brings upon this blessed month upon us soon and I shall be grateful to Him for giving me another ramadhan in my life, a chance to seek forgiveness for my sins and a chance to repent and turn back to Allah.




May Allah give us all the hidayah to understand the merits of this blessed month and give us the hidayah to fulfill our obligation towards this month, and make us of those who gain the pleasure of Allah in this month and also gain forgiveness and His mercy, inshAllah, Ameen.

More reading about ramdhan >>> Click here or http://www.islamawareness.net/Ramadhan/

Tuesday, September 4, 2007

Ummah of Islam

Salam Alaikum

After reaching DeKalb, the first thing I was concerned about was finding a Masjid nearby. In the land of the kuffar, it was indeed a great blessing from Allah that I have a Masjid close to my apartment at a walkable distance Alhamdulillah.

When I went to the Masjid, I saw people from India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Malaysia Indonesia, Lebanon, Jordan and Egypt. Some students, some just started working and some elders. All kinds of people White, Black and Brown and all ! Bowing to one God and saying He alone is the greatest.

This sight really inspired me, this one bond of Ummah which united people from all places of the world, to come to one place and bow their heads to One God. Inshallah, this ramadhan I will be looking forward to meet more of them, because some are too busy to come to masjid in normal times but inshallah they will be here in the holy month of ramadhan.

Although, its an initial period and I did not talk to many but one indonesian brother, 2 Malaysian brothers, some Arabs and ofcourse the Indian and Pakistani people.

Inshallah, this Ramdhan will be a good experience for me in this land of the kuffar. Hope I get out of here soon or Allah employs me to spread His deen here. Inshallah.

Tuesday, May 15, 2007

Which is bigger ? an ( optical ) Illusion but wait, there is more to it.....


WHICH CENTER DOT APPEARS BIGGER IN SIZE ? Left or the Right one ?
Have a look and make your decision before reading further....

Most people answer, the right center dot appears bigger in size, but on measuring both the center dots, we find they are of the same size !


You must be familiar with this image ? If no, its a very popular example of an optical illusion.
Hey! but wait, I do not intend to talk about optical illusions here. There is more to it, keep reading.

The meaning of Illusion according to the Pocket Oxford Dictionary is:

illusion n. 1 false impression or belief. 2 state of being deceived by appearances. 3 figment of the imagination.  be under the illusion (foll. by that) believe mistakenly.  illusive adj. illusory adj. [Latin illudo mock]


In this particular example of optical illusion our eyes compared the two dots based upon their surrounding objects and thus we concluded that the center dot on the right side looks bigger because its surrounded by dots even smaller, whereas the center dot on the left side is surrounded by dots much greater than its size.

Now the real thing

How many times we find ourselves comparing something with something else and fretting about it ?
for eg: people tend to compare ourselves with the bad guys in our society and end up being content that "atleast I am better than them" never realizing that they are people much better than us and when we compare ourselves with them, we have a long way to go in reforming ourselves and bringing it on best path. We are in an illusion, we are like the 'center dot on the right side' compared to the smaller ones around we feel bigger and better, whereas the same dot looks small when in company of the more bigger ones :) So, when it comes to good deeds and amount of Taq'wah, we should be the central dot in the left side, always in the company of the pious and better people, and comparing with them so that we remain aware of our shortcomings and thus strive harder to get better.

On the other hand, when it comes to misfortune, we always tend to compare with the people who are affluent and well-to-do. " He has a Mercedes and I just get a Ford we lament !" People always tend to compare their worldly achievement with those who have more than they have.
Like the center dot on the left side, feeling small when comparing with the more rich and more affluent of people, wanting for more to get bigger and this vicious cycle continues with an unquenchable thirst for this world. But, why not look at the center dot on the right side ? Compare with people who have less than you, who have more problems, who struggle much more than you do, on doing so we realize how fortunate we are and how ungrateful for the blessings Allah has given us.

Lets not fall into this worldly illusions, as Muslims we know this world is just a small phase. A short journey to the final destination, we are but travellers and travellers do not build mansions enroute, they gather the resources for their destination and keep moving. Our destination will be decided according to what we carry with us. A ticket to Jannah or a decree to Jahannum.


Let us take an example from this optical illusion to avoid falling into illusions and comparing situations with wrong ones and falling into the illusion setup by the accursed 'Shai'taan. Such wrong comparisons tend to weaken emaan and that is the last thing a Muslim would want.

May Allah help us comprehend the truth and walk the path

Tawakkul ala'Allah - Complete (100%) Reliance and Trust in Allah alone as a source of help.



Blogs are such a great way to share, learn and teach these days, MashAllah.
I had a wise blogger who visited my humble blog home out of nowhere, and when I wanted to see who it was I visited the blog of that person, and Alhamdulillah, I learnt so much, the person has been blessed with an impressive style and skill in writing and the messages always invite you to ponder upon them.

I read an informative and eye opening post about the topic under discussion on that blog, although it was taken from a magazine, and being copyrighted I would not want to repost it here. Nevertheless I can include a wonderful famous story which is a part of that inspiring article about Tawakkul ala'Allah.

Have you ever felt low ? Forsaken and helpless ? Asking yourself, O Allah, I am a good person, I never abused anyone, nor cheated a soul, I follow your commandments, and here I am, struggling with misfortune and unfortnate events battering my life, making each day worse than the previous .... I cry out to you, day and night, in seclusion after each salah expecting that one day You shall remove this burden from me, You shall ease my path, but each day I sleep dishearted and it went on for years ....O Allah, I trust you, but why me, why me...

Does this tone remind you of a time you were in such a situation or maybe even now you are in such a situation, feeling miserable and helpless ? Here is the inspiring story first...

The only survivor of a shipwreck was washed up on a small, uninhabited island.He prayed feverishly for Allah to rescue him, and every day he scanned the horizon for help, but none seemed forthcoming. Exhausted, he eventually managed to build a little hut out of driftwood to protect him from the elements,and to store his few possessions. But then one day, after scavenging for food, he arrived home to find his little hut in flames, the smoke rolling up to the sky.The worst had appened;everything was lost. He was stunned with grief and anger. “O Allah! How could you do this to me?”he cried.
Early the next day, however, he was awakened by the sound of a ship that was approaching the island.It had come to rescue him. “How did you know I was here?" asked the weary man of his rescuers. "We saw your smoke signal,” they replied.

Remember, next time your little hut is burning to the ground it just may be a smoke signal that summons the grace of Allah.


Now we have seen innumerable examples of how Allah can turn the most unfortunate looking event, into something which was most needed. If the man's hut had not been aflame, the ship would not have located him and his provisions would be exhausted soon, would he even be alive till another ship should ever pass that way ? We can only imagine.

I now want you to go to that blog I am talking about, and read the whole article about Tawakkul, here > http://writerinislam.blogspot.com/2006/02/rely-on-allah-alone.html or click here

May Allah help us train ourselves, to gain complete trust in Him, and inculcate in ourselves this innate quality of a true muslim, a real momin - Tawakkul AlalAllah. MayAllah help us understand the weakness of worldly sources and how useless every mean of help we seek, apart from Him alone, neither the pharmaceutical drugs, nor the insurance companies, neither does any science can ever give us anything , except by Allah's permission. Nothing good or bad can ever befall us, without Allah's leave, and Allah does not 'need' any means to shower His blessings on us, He can cure us without a single medicine if He willeth so, and no medical team can help us, if He willeth not cure for us, same thing for every other situation. May Allah help us comprehend this eternal truth, the way pious sahabah did (ra) and their families did - a complete reliance on Allah as the provider, ALONE. , Ameen

Friday, May 11, 2007

Pebbles and the Girl

A very clever story I found while surfing around the blog world, I thought its worth being shared on my own blog too.


Many years ago in a small Indian village, a farmer had the misfortune of owing a large sum of money to a village moneylender. The moneylender, who was old and ugly, fancied the farmer's beautiful daughter. So he proposed a bargain. He said he would forgo the farmer's debt if he could marry his daughter. Both the farmer and his daughter were horrified by the proposal. So the cunning money-lender suggested that they let providence decide the matter.

His Game:

He told them that he would put a black pebble and a white pebble into an empty money bag. Then the girl would have to pick one pebble from the bag. If she picked the black pebble, she would become his wife and her father's debt would be forgiven. If she picked the white pebble she need not marry him and her father's debt would still be forgiven. But if she refused to pick a pebble, her father would be thrown into jail.


They were standing on a pebble strewn path in the farmer's field.

As they talked, the moneylender bent over to pick up two pebbles. As he picked them up, the sharp-eyed girl noticed that he had picked up two black pebbles and put them into the bag. He then asked the girl to pick a pebble from the bag. Now, imagine you were standing in the field. What would you have done if you were the girl? If you had to advise her, what would you have told her? Careful analysis would produce three possibilities:


1. The girl should refuse to take a pebble.


2. The girl should show that there were two black pebbles in the bag and expose the money-lender as a cheat.


3. The girl should pick a black pebble and sacrifice herself in order to save her father from his debt and imprisonment.


Take a moment to ponder over the story. The above story is used with the hope that it will make us appreciate the difference between lateral and logical thinking. The girl's dilemma cannot be solved with traditional logical thinking. Think of the consequences if she chooses the above logical answers.


What would you recommend to the Girl to do?







This is what she did :











The girl put her hand into the moneybag and drew out a pebble. Without looking at it, she fumbled and let it fall onto the pebble-strewn path where it immediately became lost among all the other pebbles.


"Oh, how clumsy of me," she said. "But never mind, if you look into the bag for the one that is left, you will be able to tell which pebble I picked."


Since the remaining pebble is black, it must be assumed that she had picked the white one. And since the money-lender dared not admit his dishonesty, the girl changed what seemed an impossible situation into an extremely advantageous one.

MORAL OF THE STORY: Most complex problems do have a simple solution.It is only that we don't attempt to think.


"Its not because things are difficult that we don't dare; Its because we don't dare, that they are difficult."

Tuesday, April 24, 2007

Thursday, April 19, 2007

O Muslim students !

O Muslim students of today

O students following Islaam

You are the Allah's soldiers

fill yourselves with Imaan


Depart ye O students

into the colleges and schools

show ye the right path to all

don't ye follow the fools


Always remember O youngster

that you are a Muslim child

don't let they feet stagger

even for a little while


if ye O Muslim students

live a life of Islaam

a day will come when no one

will be deprived of Imaan


the days of youth are swift

they come and pass away

don't you fall in haraam,

don't you be led astray


indeed you are the blessed

you are the chosen one

so dont ye forget your duties

just for a little fun


-SIM

AUGUST 2005

Sunday, April 15, 2007

Add your blog address in my list


If you have an interesting blog and you write about Islamic issues, please leave me a not with your blog address in my message board. I will pay a visit to your blog and inshAllah add a link to your blog in my "recommended blogs" section.

If you have any websites \ blogs \ you want to recommend through this blog, pls leave a message with the site address, inshAllah I will add those sites in "Recommended Sites" section.

If you are offering any service \ online \ offline to Muslim community and want me to put your banner \ graphic on my blog, do inform me through my message board, I will be pleased to advertize your service \ product if it helps the ummah inshAllah.

Any suggestions, comments, criticism is welcome. Please make dua for my soul, my life and hereafter, and for the ummah.

JazakAllah khair

MissionPeace


Tuesday, April 10, 2007

Foreign \ Intercultural \ Inter-Racial Relationships- uniting the Ummah

I found this informative post on the blog of a sister in USA married to an Egyptian guy. You may visit her blog here >> http://ummlayla.blogspot.com May Allah bless her home n family, ameen

The following post is her writing, all credit goes to her. Its a real eye opening and thought provoking post, to try and make things work, and avoid frictions in marital relationship.

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I think there are many of us out there married to people from other countries in my generation. I applaud that, but I think you have to know that you will have to address your differences (and they do exist no matter how much you are convinced you are perfectly compatible in spite of being from different places). IMHO, if you are going to marry a person from a country and culture other than your own I think there should be a few ground rules... Here are a few I have thought of, maybe you have more:

1. Both persons should be amicable to living in the other's country. You never know where you will end up. The only exception I can think of is if one spouses country is just plain unlivable due to war, poverty, whatever...

2. Take off the rose colored glasses. Both spouses have to be willing to see their culture/country for what it is... Faults foibles and all... So be ready to really examine they "why" to how you do things and be flexible if the why has no clear answers.

3. Try to learn your spouse’s native language and have your children learn it too (usually one spouse already speaks the other's language and this is the common tongue for the household). If you are person speaking the his/her native language all the time try to imagine how your spouse feels not being able to speak to his/her own children in their first language.

4. Remember and be considerate of the fact that one of you will always be the foreigner. Before you say no to helping the other person with something remember how you would feel if you were trying to accomplish such a task in his/her country.

5. Make Islam (or whatever your core values are) the tiebreaker in all your decisions. There will be no "cultural norm" sometimes and you will need it.

6. When in doubt, talk it out. You can never assume that you have the same picture of a situation as your spouse (this may go for any marriage) and you don't want to get caught up in this... So make sure you see things the same way (or at least know how the other sees it) before making any life altering decisions.

7. Enjoy the diversity in your family and respect it. Don't let yourself choose one culture and make it the norm, let both cultures thrive. You will find there is good in both.

I'm sure there are more... Post them if you can think of any !

---quote ends----


Personally, for me every inter-racial or inter-cultural successful marriage i see reinforces in me the concept of Islamic Ummah and unity of mankind. Islam is the only bond which was successful in erasing these minor differences right from the beginning. When people were so divided on lines of lineage that, they had their own tribals 'gods', and Islam came and shocked the world by uniting the more divided nations of their time, the Arabs of Hijaz. There remained no difference between Hazrath Bilal the Abyssinian (RA) or Hazrath Abu Bakr (RA) who freed him. They remained no difference between Muhajireen and Ansar (Emigrants ,and their Helpers), the only thing which divided people, was their Taqwa or GodConsciousness, piety and morality.

Today, more number of intercultural relationships are being made compared to the previous modern generations. Firstly, due to direct interaction of various people in diverse countries like the USA. Secondly, due to the power of Internet, which makes your social circle greater than ever imagined, thirdly because people are unable to find their 'match' of similar ideals n personality in their local circles, and are overwhelmed to find them overseas.

But, as the sister pointed out and I shall never forget her words "TAKE OFF YOUR ROSE COLOURED GLASSES" : ) Yes, think it out, consider every aspect of it Positive and negative. Think about all the hardships you may face, and amount of patience n flexibility you will need. Personal aspirations and expectations from this bond should be made extremely clear to either party. Take your time, there is no hurry. But, once your in the bond of matrimony. Seek the blessings of Allah (swt) and use the sunnah of RasoolAllah (saws) to build a home of peace, happiness and security. For, of all the allowed things, the most hated by Allah is 'divorce' which is increasing at an alarming rate at the same time in Muslim societies too.


The bottomline is, Marry to please Allah (swt), choose your partner in the manner prescribed, for the qualities that please Allah, build your home to please Allah (swt) and discharge your respective duties to seek His pleasure alone. And when Allah's pleasure is put in the primary objective slot, inshAllah your home n family will be blessed by Him.

I pray He showers His choicest blessings on each Muslim home, and family and help us carry out our social responsibilities to seek His pleasure. Ameen



Monday, April 9, 2007

Status of women- the great creation of Allah (swt)

A sister had writted a beautiful post about the status of women and their achievement in her blog, after I was caught making fun of females in a chatroom ( although just for fun ) :)) I was making fun, only as a teaser, but its not new, in my dental college, I was famous for making jokes about girls and they all used to scold me so much though in a friendly way (the girls in my class) but once we had a debate on a college annual day, about a similar topic, and everyone was shocked that I spoke on the side of women, YES you read it correctly ! and i spoke my real opinion, right from my heart, and Alhamdulillah I also won the debate and got a lot of fame and fan following in campus ;)) not to mention the extra attention of all female professors , extra grades n bla bla ;)


When I read the post on her blog, (( which is here http://cerminjiwa.blogspot.com/2007/03/annisa-is.html )) i started writing a comment, and somehow, the comment became an article in itself. It was so embarassing to write a whole essay in a comment box LOL. but still I posted it (anyway she does not pay for blogger.com server space :)) LOL .
And now I decided, to paste the same comment, in my own blog. And THIS reflects my real view about women, and my sincere appreciation for their equal or greater contribution to this world.

"
This topic under discussion has 2 aspects to talk about. Women in the sight of Allah (swt) and Women in worldly sense.

As far as Allah is concerned, the last khutbah of RasoolAllah (saws) made it clear that, gender, race, skin color, age and family status are not the criteria, but a person's Taqwa is what matters to Allah. So, if a woman has more Taqwa than a man, she is superior in the sight of Allah according to my understanding of Deen. Allahu Alim.

Secondly, in the world. Islamically men are given a little superiority over women, that does not mean women are less in any sense. But, in any school there is only one principal, every army has one Leader, every solah in congregation has one Imam, and every family has one head. Here, just because man is made physically and emotionally strong and 'suited' for the leader job, he is given a little superiority, but always remember, with 'great power comes great responsibility' (i think i heard this is spiderman movie too :) ] So, if men are given this responsibility and they do not abide by Allah's rules and treat women well and respect her as she deserves, they will have an extra session of questions on Yaum AlQiyamah, dont you think ? When Allah made us leader, when He's measuring our deeds, He will surely measure how we "lead" our homes, n families and social lives too. So, men shud always keep in mind, they r superior, but the same 'superiority' in this world can be the cause of their annhilation on the day of reckoning, IF they boast of this and treat women badly or try to subjugate them in any way.

And how can we forget a great sentence from the last khutbah of RasoolAllah (Saws) delivered on the Ninth Day of Dhul Hijjah 10 A.H in the Uranah Valley of mount Arafat, where he said "the best amongst you, is the one who treats his wife with compassion\ family with compassion".

So, the conclusion is. Women have their duties and their nature is made for some kind of work.They are not 'designed' to stress themselves to seek work to earn for food, or to struggle like a man does. She is already stressed by nature itself, she need not stress herself with trying to earn n earn to look successful to other people. She may work in time when she feels well, work in what she likes as long as its in the Islamic limits, and work with her husband's permission. (after all, if hez the leader of home, discipline demands a permission, and islam is most disciplined deen). She may do business, and watever she likes, and can use that money in whatever she likes. She need not, take responsibility of household finances, she wont be asked because, she never was given the responsibility. But, she shud take care to be ready to answer about what she was given responsibility, and the best woman is the one, who takes care of her responsibility Allah gave her, and not the ones given by society or culture.

Man is 'designed' to endure more physical and emotional stress. He is been given responsibility to toil for the food, work and bring in the funds and seek halal income to feed his family. A good husband is one who works hard to bring halal income to their family, and good wife is one who is happy in what Allah gives them and is not greedy for more.

This war of genders was never a problem in Islam, cos Islam never subjugated women. This gender war started by rebellion among the christian women, and later the modern feminists from europe and america took over. The church used to doubt, if women had a 'soul', and woman was treated as 'inferior' and 'evil' and they also blamed her to 'entice' Adam (As) in eating the forbidden fruit. Because, the church subjugated them, women started rebellion and started violating all social laws, as commonly happens in all rebellions. But, man made a way to still keep her in subjugation, HOW ? men, started making women feel that, they can dress as they like, they can show themselves to 'please' people and get 'rewards' like promotions, jobs and so on. women fell for this trap and till now, most women dont realize, they are showing their bodies to man thinking she is equal, and man is mocking them, thinking what a fool she is. Islam gave women the right and power to cover themselves and be recognized for their talents, and not on false make up and temporary physical beauty, the double standards of these "women's freedom' talking nations is exposed when they stop Muslim women from wearing a Hijab !!! A woman in a skirt can use her brain, as equally as a woman in a Hijab. If 2 women teach, a woman with and one without hijab, both can do well depending on their knowledge and skill, their clothes dont make them better in their work :)) , when they stop Muslim women from wearing hijab, it shows that they dont really believe in women's equality, but in "women's fake equality which makes them do what Men want" its just like throwing a bone to a dog, and making him to do tricks !!! they dont really throw the bone out of love, but only to make the dog do what they want him to do, if the dog is not trainable, they dont throw the bones, thats simple logic they apply. They treat women as dogs, throwing the bone of "equality n feminism" to make them do what actually men "want" women to do.

But, righteous women, Muslims or NonMuslims, have realized this brain washed subjugation, and unequality in disguise today. And when a woman recognizes her potential and wants to be respected for herself and not for her body and false show, she ends up in Islaam. I wish Muslim men, do not follow the secular\communist\ modern\capitalist societies making our women do the same. Islamic society is the best, and today, our society is under constant under attack from without and from within. Its the youth, who can spread the word and make the masses realize that, Islam gave them rights, secular society in reality have enslaved women to mere things of pleasure and advertisement material.

Educate a man, and you educate an individual, educate a woman and you educate a family.


A mother's lap is a child's first Madrasah... lets help increase these good madrasahs, educate women for world and hereafter and make them aware of potential tricks the world can play to 'fool' her same way its doing to women all over the world.

And women, pls always remember, we all live for hereafter. If you dont get recognition for the responsibilities you discharged well, Allah will reward you with much more precious medals and honors, incomparable to this world. If your family needs you, be there. And men should honor their women so much, that she should never feel need to get this 'fake honor' to prove her potential and skills. Let each do what Allah likes them to do, and tomorrow, we will stand equal, no extra marks for being a man, and no extra marks for being a woman :)

Always remember, no nation can survive who subjugates women, no home can survive in which a woman is oppressed. Same way, no nation or home can survive in which men dont know how to lead, and rules n regulations n limits of leaderships. Apply this to nations and see it will suit 95% situations. "

Saturday, March 10, 2007

Forgive me O Allah !

Forgive me O Allah !

Forgive me O Allah

Forgive me O Allah !

I pray to You My Lord

You are the only one God


With all our divine knowledge

we Muslims are still heedless

Of Your divine guidance

we think we are now needless !


we betray our beloved Prophet

on whom forever be peace

we try to buy this world

paying hereafter as the fees


our prophet wept for our future

but our eyes weep no more

we enjoy the daily comic strips

but a hadith to read is a bore !


produce O Allah as You promised

a group which follows the straight path

and make me Allah the Merciful

thy servant and that group's part


Guide us all O Allah

on the Siratal Mustaqeem

so we see Your glory O Lord

on the blessed Yaum ad Deen

SIM

Wednesday, March 7, 2007

Seven Habits of Highly Successful Muslim Youth


I remember reading a book by Stephen R Covey, titled 'Seven Habits of Highly Effective People' it is a good book and it sold more than 15 million copies. And recently I came across a more important issue, 'How to be a successful Muslim youth ?' we all know, life does not stop, it just hastens, and we suddenly realize, our youth is gone, we are old and weak, unable to face the challenges or contribute much to the society, unable to stand up long in salaah, unable to do the voluntary fasting (sawm). Of those people who will be given shade under the Arsh of Allah (swt) on the day of Qiyamah, will be the people, who spent their youth in the worship of Allah, spent their youth in His way, for His deen. Hence, it becomes really important for youth to know, how to be successful in both the worlds without compromising their faith or deen.

I came across, a very nice article, by Brother Altaf (USA) posted on the website of IslamOnline . net, I shared this article with all my Muslim friends by email. I will just post the summary of the article here, and you may follow the link below to read the whole article on the original website.

QUOTED >>

Seven Habits of Highly Successful Muslim Youth

By Altaf Husain
Social Worker — USA

You cannot escape it. The discussion about habits is all around you: Mom and Dad are constantly telling you to break your bad habits; your teachers are telling you to develop good habits; your friends are pressuring you to adopt their habits; and the television and media are influencing you to explore new and supposedly cool habits. "You will never be successful," the constant refrain goes, "unless you drop your bad habits and develop some good habits." In the end, it's all up to you. You have to decide what your habits are going to be. Have you given this matter some thought?

If you are alive and breathing, you should constantly be engaged in an inner struggle to develop habits which draw you closer to Allah Most High. Success in this world is directly related to the strength of your relationship with Allah. ..........

Here are at least seven habits indispensable for highly successful Muslim youth, derived entirely from the Qur'an and the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him).

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Be Truthful

Being truthful is not always easy, especially when we make a mistake. We fret over whether or not to disclose exactly what happened.,.................

Be Trustworthy

Who do you rely on? Of course, Allah. He is indeed the Most Trustworthy. But among humans, who do you rely on? Who can you trust to ...................

Have Self-Restraint and Be God-Conscious

Perhaps the most difficult challenge while navigating adolescence is to restrain oneself from falling victim to one's desires — especially one's lower desires...............................

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Be Thorough

Look around your room. How many unfinished projects do you have? When you work on homework, are you likely to rush through the assignment, ...................

Be Focused

One thousand ideas go through your head the moment you stand up for prayer. Is that you? Really? What do you make of those ideas? Do you process them? .........................

Be Punctual

Stop saying over and over again that you are late because of "Muslim standard time," or the "standard time" of your particular ethnicity. The last thing we should attribute to Islam is the notion that its teachings somehow make us late, slow. .........................

Be Consistent

Apart from all the habits listed above, perhaps the one that is sure to help you become a highly successful Muslim youth is that of being consistent. One cannot be truthful one day and a liar the next; ............................................

Conclusion

Finally, Muslims aspire to develop all of these habits because, in doing so, we draw nearer to Allah Most High. If you are intent on being a highly successful Muslim youth, then you owe it to yourself to reflect upon your own life and see how many of these habits are already a part of who you are and how many you need to further develop or acquire......................

Strive to develop the seven habits listed above and many others from the Islamic teachings so that you will be among the highly successful Muslim youth.


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Come back to Islam, Come back to Allah

Some videos just take our breath away, some videos inspire, some videos lift our emaan and refresh our relation with our Creator. This is one video which was made to inspire the Muslim youth, to come back to Allah, come back to Islaam. I am really thankful to the producers of this wonderful video, and I always recommend Muslim youth to watch it once, it has a message, a message which can change your destiny inshAllah.

- - Dedication - -


With Genuine Humility , I Acknowledge Your Aid O GOD !

In the true spirit of Islam , I Appretiate Your Grace O GOD !

With All my Heart I Thank You , O GOD !

Without Your Guidance and Love ,

This work would not have been possible.

Were it not for Your Help and Cause,

This Humble contribution would have never become a Reality.

And If it is worth Dedicating ,

Please Bless it with Your Acceptance ;

Its Dedicated to You O GOD !

a humble slave of thee O Allah !

SIM aka MissionPeace